He wrote back and gave me his cell and boom, away we went. Until I most likely scared the shit out of him and forced him to the nearest police station to file a restraining order. Apparently I'm not only a blabbermouth in person, I also have no filter when it comes to typing. In attempting to make small talk (small text), I divulged that I had seem him around in a few neighboring towns..... and then I commenced to list where I had run into him. And I might have mentioned that I saw him on a date perhaps? Yeah, I really mentioned that.
What was I thinking? No clue. I was just keeping it real, no head games (don't all the profiles list that as desirable?) Apparently I'm too much of a mental case for him and he stopped writing back.... Lesson learned. 'Do NOT come across as a stalker, men don't like that.' Good to know.
Ugh! I feel for you because I also have no filter (but at least I'm honest, right?) so it took me at least a year to understand how to date in this century. (Ps I'm 48 going on 49) But I mean this so sincerely, at my age I finally know what is important and what I want. It's like going to a nice restaurant. When you are 20 something, you order what you "think"
ReplyDelete....you should order (I got cut off on my previous post). When you are 40 something you know what you want and you don't care if you impress the waiter. Life is meant be lived, enjoy getting to know who you are and what you want ( you have life experience and that means a lot) Does post divorce kinda feel like pre adolescent middle school, when you have crushes... And the giggles, and the infatuation? Of course ! But we all go through it, and we aren't 13. We are there for each other in this anonymous sisterhood of blogs.
DeleteYeah. Live and learn. I hate when I do stuff with men that leaves me feeling off balance and like I've failed somehow. However, they also have a whole different sense of time than we do. His failing to write back yet may have nothing to do with you. Play it cool and if he writes again wait until you don't feel out of balance and then write him back. You will get to know the feeling well. All of a sudden whatever you were fretting about, whatever was generating that little niggle of fear and self doubt with Mr. Whoever will just have exhausted itself and writing or replying will just feel relaxed and like nothing is on the line other than Mr. Whoever missing out on fabulous you. And the next time you feel scared and small? Rinse. Repeat.
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his loss LOL and I feel you on keeping it real but don't change it because it keeps the losers/posers at bay
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