I gave a little too much credit to Army Boy recently and it came back to bite me. Over a month ago, I traded in my beat up mini-van for a 'new to me' car. I had just barely paid off the mini-van and hadn't received the title yet. The dealer took it as a trade-in and then later on contacted me saying that I needed to get them the title. I had assumed the dealer would get the title themselves (maybe erroneously so) because I had signed some form authorizing them to do so.
I called the loan company for my van and was told that yes, they had mailed out the title to me and I should be receiving it soon. I wait and wait and no title. I get another call from the dealer - where is the title? I don't know, I respond, they told me they sent it but I haven't received it.
Weeks go by and I don't hear from anyone. Maybe the dealer got sick of waiting for me to get the title and they took care of it themselves. Nope, I then receive a letter from an attorney saying that I'm being taken to collections because I have not turned over the title to the dealer yet.
So again, I call the loan company for my van. Yes, they sent the title out weeks ago and here's the address that it went to. Yup, that's my address, I say, I don't know why I haven't received it yet. Then something in the back of my mind goes off. Someone had casually asked me if perhaps mail was being forwarded to Army Boy's address and I had said that I'm sure some of it was but it wouldn't be anything important and if it was, I'm sure he would give it to me..... Do you see where I'm headed with this?
I text Army Boy, 'Did the title for the van get forwarded to you?' He responds, 'Yes, I wasn't sure if you still needed it or not.' HMMM, he wasn't sure if I needed it or not but it never occurred to him to maybe send me a fucking text and ask me? I told him that I did indeed need it and now I'm being sent to collections because I haven't turned the title over yet.
Once again, thanks to Army Boy for continuing to screw me over. You cheat on me and walk out and you still continue to fuck me over every chance you get. Funny how he told me months ago that he 'doesn't hate me' but he can't quite force himself to send me a two line text - 'I got your title. Do you need it?' I guess I've wronged him in so many ways I don't even deserve the most basic of courtesies.
Words fail me. I hope you can get it sorted now. What a horrible horrible person he is. Take care FT Xxx
ReplyDeleteNow I feel bad...about 4 months after the divorce was final, I received the title to his car...in the shredder it went. It wasnt my responsibility anymore to worry about his lying cheating ass...he'll, he had moved out nearly a year prior to that. Now I think I should have taken the high road... But then I remember the lying and cheating and think....nah
ReplyDeleteYour husband is a dick. Plain and simple
Ashley
What a mother effing asshole. I'm so sorry.
ReplyDeleteAnd anonymous above, who so awesomely shredded the title? Don't you feel bad for one second. It would have been shitty if you had screwed him over. As it stands? He had it coming.
When my a-hole ex and the skank he left me for got married, I got some of their wedding gifts sent to my address by mistake. A bottle of champagne, some cards...what do you think I did with them? I'll give you a clue: there was very little altitude on the road I took. :)
OMG Jenny, wedding gifts went to your address?! I would have consumed what I could and into the bonfire with the rest. That's the only road to take in that circumstance.
DeleteIt's all part of his new moronic, juvenile idoitness. Why do these men turn to complete imbeciles?? The "I don't care about you" attidute is mind numbing....I had a similar situation. As the primary insurance holder, he swtiched the billing address without telling me. I start getting collection letters for unpaid medical bills. "What bills?" I said when I saw the letters. Thanks Douche for not giving me the mail. You'd think he would have clued in when he opened the envelope and saw it was for a surgery he did not have.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to have my X move in with your STBX. It would be like Dumb and Dumber.
To the above:
ReplyDeleteTwunt and twunter
;-)
We could start an ex movie title game here...
FT Xxx
Twunt and twunter.... LOL. I snorted over that one.
DeleteI am going to yelled at for this! I know it! But it struck me that there is some resonance between assuming you don't have to communicate with your wife about a title and assuming you don't have to communicate with a dealer about a title they asked for. If the error here had been with the loan company or USPS the outcome with collections would have been the same. My ONLY point is energy shovelled into hating some thoughtless and clearly self focused guy for something like this is energy that could be used positively for you rather than handing over way more power than he deserves. If somebody mails you something and it hasn't arrived in a week have them mail it again. In this case you would have realized much earlier something was amiss and even he might have clued in to a second title arriving. Again this is about trying to support you, not criticize or minimize. He's a dick. You married a man capable of being a thoughtless, self focused dick and that SUCKS. Don't let it suck anymore than it already has to. He's not some outsized villain, he's an ordinary jerk in a world full of them. Don't give him, or his other woman, any more power in your mind than they deserve.
ReplyDeleteYeah I don't think it's that easy to get a replacement. In my state you have to go through the title office, fill out forms. Some states you have to wait 30 days. It's not like they can have 10 titles floating around.
DeleteActually just looked it up for the state in question. Fill out a duplicate title application, both owners must sign, pay $31 and then drive to the DMV office. Lol yeah that is cheap and convenient.
DeleteI know I was a procrastinator about dealing with the car place over the title. I hate talking on the phone and didn't want to deal with it. All I asked for was just a text from Army Boy saying - I got your title. Maybe he was procrastinating too but if I could have texted the dealer, I would have done it right off....
DeleteAnd anonymous is correct, it's not easy to get a duplicate title. When I called the loan company for the last time, the best they could do was send me a letter stating that the loan had been paid off and I would have to go to the DMV to request a duplicate title. Jumping through so many hoops when the original title is sitting in an envelope at Army Boy's place but he's too much of an asshole to tell me it's there... Don't worry I've got enough energy to hate him and focus on myself as well. ;)