So I'm 40 and unhitched, footloose and fancy free. Right? Right. Sign me up to have some casual 'relationships'...because that's what people do I'm told. Sounds like fun? Uh, I guess. Only not so much. I don't think I'm the casual type of girl. Just like so many other things, it sounded better in my mind. I'm not saying it won't happen again but I'm saying yeah, it'd be nice to have a connection in more ways than one.
I have a big question that I'm hoping to find a positive answer for. Are there any normal guys over the age of 40 who are single? 'Cause I'm looking and what I'm finding are pervs who think a dick shot is a good advertisement, guys who tell me their cats named themselves, guys who are 'just about to be divorced' (uh huh), guys who are going to move here and they're visiting for a week and need a tour guide (uh huh), guys who want to 'build a relationship based on love and respect' and then want all my personal information right off (uh huh), 26 year olds who like older women (couldn't say no to that, who can blame me?), and the list goes on and on.
One guy basically called me a serial dater because I've been on a few dates in a month. Really? I'm a serial dater after a few dates? Excuse me for using my time wisely when the kids have been with their dad or at my parents' house. And I'm so fucking sorry that I haven't found my knight in shining armour in the first five seconds of looking.
I've only been playing the field for a short time so I'm trying not to get depressed. Goddamn though, it's pretty frustrating to think there are so many men out there who are liars, pervs and cheats. I guess my ex isn't that unique after all.
my advice is to use the time away from your kids to indulge your passions (art, wine, whatever it is) and explore new experiences (crossfit, volunteer, white water rafting, painting classes, etc) do things that interest you and you will find someone who will more than likely be a compatible person and probably a quality one ;)
ReplyDeleteGirl. I feel ya! My single co-worker and I often talk about the over-40 men. I'm seriously beginning to wonder if I'm destined to spend the rest of my days talking to my dog and watching Bravo.
ReplyDeleteYou are brave and smart for getting out there, though. I will keep my fingers crossed (and tell my dog to cross his paws) that you find at least one connect-able guy ♥
Oh, screw the favorite vegetable of the jerk who said you are a serial dater. The whole point of dating is to meet new people and until you agree to an exclusive relationship or only want to see one person, you are free to do as you please. The nerve of some people. . .
ReplyDeleteI am not really sure if age is really the problem because frankly there are a lot of freaks out there. I experienced that in my 20s when I did on-line dating and a seemingly nice, normal guy finally did come along much to my relief.
He is now my ex-husband. He ended up being the biggest freak of them all in every way imaginable.
I think the other thing that factors in is as we get older, we are able to discern BS far better than when we were younger, making it seem like there are more weirdos than before, don't you think?
I'm all about hobbies and friends. Not as quick and exciting, but less terrible.
FYI, I am in the process of negotiating names with my new cat. Nothing wrong with that. :-)