The question of the day is whether the pond scum in my life has returned from his work travels. Since I am physically unable to sit home on the weekends (or I will go crazy), the kids and I picked a direction and off we went on a jaunt. Two towns over, who do I see on his midlife crisis motorcycle but Pond Scum coming straight at me. Once again fate, or my woman's intuition, is having some fun with me.
Luckily Pond Scum has no clue what I drive now so I'm pretty sure he didn't notice me. Funny how you can not see or talk to your kids in five weeks (and only see them four hours in six weeks, and four days and four hours in ten weeks) but the first thing you do when you return home after being gone for a month is see your girlfriend. I praise myself on being a detective but it doesn't take much skill to know that's the situation here since he was only one town away from his skanky whore and in a whole separate county from where he lives. Yup, he's gone for a month and he chooses to reunite with her and not even contact those with his own DNA. Thankfully the last time the kids asked about him and inquired when they were going to see him was.....maybe three weeks ago??? If you know you're not a priority with somebody, it's pretty hard to miss them.
The moral of the day is don't expect pond scum to act like anything other than pond scum. Then you won't be surprised, disappointed or hurt. Keep in mind that you're dealing with the nastiest of shit and you'll know not to get caught up in it.
This morning on my early morning 'the divorce demons are chasing me' walk, I came across a moose no more than 30 feet away from me. It was standing in a wetland, surrounded by a huge pool of pond scum. I wanted to approach it in order to get a better picture. Then I had visions of myself as tomorrow morning's headline, 'Woman Killed By Crazed Moose'. I backed slowly away from the moose and waited until a car came and scared it off. Closest I've ever come to a moose before. Unfortunately, I've been closer to pond scum. I slept with some for eighteen years.
I'm sorry I know you are covering up your hurt with anger and boy do you have a right to be angry - I can't believe him - that is just wrong on so many levels. It was easy for me to tell myself my girls are better off without their father because he is such a bad father but as they enter their teens my oldest has expressed to me that she often wondered why he didn't care about her and even though I explain that he is literally not able to be a father emotionally that he is missing the things necessary to be one it still hurts her and I know you are hurting for your kids. May the karma bus hit him where it hurts as long as it doesn't affect you and the kids negatively. I hope his gf gives him herpes.
ReplyDeleteMy heart hurts for your girls. It's so hard to hear them try to make sense of it all. I hope the karma bus hits all of the POS that we have to deal with.
DeleteThanks for reading and writing. Hugs to you and your girls.
Speaking of Karma Kay, I hope you have all this documented to the gnat's eyebrow? he will not look good in the eyes of the court with this behavior.
ReplyDeleteGood luck to you and your kids. Hopefully a man of honor and integrity will enter your lives.
I've heard so many times "the court won't care" but I am still documenting it. I'm hoping he won't fight for more custody than he already has since he's not capable of providing more for our kids but I am preparing for a fight if I need to.
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Kay!
ReplyDeleteYou may not appreciate this but I think it is totally cool. Here is what an animal totem site says about the Moose:
Moose:
Magic of life and death, sacred energy is opened, camouflage self, conceal ideas/thoughts/actions until the appropriate time, life is awakening and moose will acknowledge the truths that are needed by your spirit. Aids in moving emotions for awareness, teaches strength, wisdom and patience. Moose gives you the ability to move swiftly but silently with wisdom. Are you being gentle with yourself? Do you need to more graceful and humble or speak up more? Moose will show you balance along with how strength can be found in gentleness and how to deal with situations.
http://www.starstuffs.com/animal_totems/dictionary_of_animals.html
That's pretty cool about the meaning of the moose! I like that a lot. I've always had an affinity for wolves but maybe moose are my totem animal and encountering one was a sign.
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