Married for fifteen years and our relationship now consists of emails no more than sixteen words long. And that's sixteen words too long for me. I wish I would never have to see or talk to him again. Every time I have to interact with him, I think of the disgusting things that he's done and it gives me a knot in my stomach.
I have a meeting with my lawyer today to discuss the proposal for the divorce settlement. More legal fees. Divorce is the gift that keeps on taking. I'll be asking for full physical and legal custody of the kids. That's what we have in the temporary arrangement. I'm really hoping that Army Boy doesn't try to fight that. I'm assuming that him not speaking to the kids for over five weeks is a good indication of where his mind is at but then again, he doesn't have much of a mind so I'm really not sure.
I've enjoyed reading your blog and totally relate to your feelings in this post. It's unbelievable to me sometimes that I was married to my EX for 21 years (+2 years of dating which = 1/2 of my entire life spent with him) and our communication now consists of 10 word (or less) texts about when he is picking up the kids or whether my oldest is driving them over to see him instead (the 1x a week he takes time from his busy social life to see them for a few hours). I truly, deeply wish he would pack up and move far, far away and never contact us again. That would be so freeing...every contact with him is like having a little knife poked in my back...I would relish not having to feel that knife any more.
ReplyDeletenot sure where you live but look out for him to try for 50/50 since then he won't have to pay child support (or that is how it is here) but he actually has to take them 50/50 or you can go back to court and get it reversed
ReplyDeleteI also hope you are keeping a log of his actions (like being back in town and not contacting his kids immediately)
Kuudos to you for taking the high road yet again. My response would have been, I'm surprised it took you this long since you were in such and such town the other day....then again, I never resist the urge for a guilt trip...which of course is the abusive part of me my ex AF boy spoke of...lol if it goes anything like my childhood, this is what happened....
ReplyDeleteDad gets joint custody. Sends mom schedule every month. Honors it. Marries OW. OW is not good to me and constantly tells me my mom is crazy. I put up with it for 3 years....then tell dad at age 11 I don't want to see him anymore...and I didn't until I was 17 and he comes back into my life after he finds stepmonster has cheated....he is now on wife 3 whom I love a lot because guess what, she is just like my real mom. His fairly tale couldn't/didn't last so he went back to what was actually good.
Ashley